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Quiet of Quarantine

I’ve been feeling like these sunflowers since the seriousness of the pandemic has led our government officials to first recommend, then order, people to #stayhomeohio. Sunflowers grow so tall because they are always seeking the light. When there is no light ???? they lean into

Fish Out of Water

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “ Do not go where the path may lead, but instead go where there is no path and leave a trail.” Having spent years of my clinical career doing suicide prevention and intervention work, looking the other direction as now a

A Pastor’s Presence

I talked to my friend on the phone the night before he ended his own life. In fact, we had talked confidentially on a number of occasions over the previous few months. He was normally a good communicator- interesting, articulate, cohesive, still able to find

Comfort is the enemy of Change

I get invited to sit on or be a part of committees and advisory boards. I’m always honored and humbled because I’m often invited by someone who knows me and has watched me walk the walk of healing and recovery. At least one of them

It’s hard to admit I’m Green

I wonder if Kermit the Frog had the same struggle. My guess is no, but everybody has a story I guess. He is supposed to be green. Frogs are green. Nothing to see here. Move along. Right? There have been two instances where I’ve been

Terrible Twos

If you’re a parent, you know exactly what the terrible twos mean. If you’re not a parent, you still know because you’ve seen it in every aisle at Walmart. Tiny humans screaming, crying, throwing themselves face down on the floor all the while saying, “No!”

Look in the right direction…

There are many things I’ve done where looking in the right direction helped accomplish the goal. I guess my first experience was learning to ride a horse. You pull the reigns in the right direction by looking in the direction you want to go. The

Words are Power Tools

Let’s talk about words. Words are the most powerful tool we have, in my opinion, of course. Build you up;tear you down. Save a life;take a life. I’m going to go back a few years to when I was in 1st grade. Ok, maybe more


There is purpose in this silence. At least that’s what I say, so that’s what I will think, with hopes of one day maybe even believing it. The phone has stopped ringing. I am no longer needed 24/7 to fix this or that, call him


What is your WHY? Many life coaches, motivational speakers, and yes, even counselors (including me!), will challenge people to find their WHY? Their purpose. The mistake we often make is we immediately think big picture. If it’s a fitness goal, maybe it’s to lose 30